Response to recent article in Holistic Bliss magazine

Adrian wrote:

The article about Delaney and Glen is misinformed and damaging in the use of the term facilitated communication (FC). FC has a very specific meaning, and while what Delaney and Glen are doing is, I suppose, communication that is facilitated from mind to mind, it is not, and I repeat, not, FC. FC is what is described early on in the article, a Facilitator supporting the hand, wrist or arm of the User typing on a communication board. As an FC User I am disturbed by the use of FC to describe telepathy. I don’t want to discredit their connection as I can only make assumptions to its validity but in order to communicate in that way is entirely different to FC.

My facilitator can often guess at what my next word or sentence may be based on context clues, body language, the circumstances and previous letters I have typed, but even if they believe it an accurate guess they will always verify with me that the guess is correct. This is different than a telepathic thought being shared, mind to mind. My facilitator may guess what they think I will say, but not suggest that they KNOW what I want to say. Do you see now the difference? Do you see now, that to use the term FC when talking about telepathy is misinformed or how it could be damaging to those who actually use FC. As an FC user I already face enough scepticism about my form of communication, I do not need metaphysical controversial concepts colouring my communication with even more questions. I would implore Delaney to cease the use of the term FC when using telepathy.

Jackie wrote:

Recently an article in your magazine purported to be about facilitated communication. As a user of facilitated communication, I find this article troublesome. Glen and Delaney are not using facilitated communication, instead they are using psychic telepathic communication. They need to cease using the term ‘facilitated communication’ as they are denigrating it.

Facilitated communication is an alternative mode of communicating for people who cannot speak or communicate independently. Facilitated communication requires the user to type their words and is sometimes called ‘supported typing’. Some users need a lot of physical support, while others gain independence.

Predicting the next word is possible at times. For example, I might say “I want a …” and you can predict a noun fits there. This is because that is how our English language works. If I give you one or two letters, you can better predict what noun I am using. It is not possible to predict a stream of words from one or two letters as Delaney would like people to think.

I am very upset that she has put my communication mode in a questionable light. Tears stream down my face as I write this to you, the editor, and your readers. Yes, listen to my distress. People will doubt my voice if Delany persists on using facilitated communication to describe what she does with Glen.

Maintaining friendships over time and distance

Over the years I’ve had many people I would consider friends at the time. We cared for one another, shared things with each other, made time for one another. Then life happened. Friends moved away, they went to a different social or activity group, they got sick or depressed or simply, we grew apart. When i think of these people they become a fond memory that I think of when i visit certain places, smell certain foods or hear certain songs. I have a lot of ‘fond memory’ people but I also want to have more friends who last through time and distance. Those are the real tests of friendship. It’s difficult to maintain friendships when you cannot simply call them to say “hi”. Once again I curse my inability to speak! If I could pick up a phone just to say “I miss you”, I’d probably have more long standing friends! It’s hard but not impossible to maintain friendships through written words alone. Written words are usually from the soul and take effort so you know they’re meaningful. So I continue this journey to keep my friends as my friends and not just fond memories. (Adrian)

Distance is easy. Time isn’t.

Friendships are very important to me.

Distance is able to be bridged by the means of technology. Emails can go across the world or from city to city. The thing I like about them is that they don’t rely on having a voice. By that I mean not having physical voice. I have a strong voice through my fingers.
I have a heart and I have feelings just like everyone else.

Time isn’t easy. People move on in their lives. I think back to people I was close to in the past. I like to think we could reconnect but it is likely that life gets in the way. I hold the memory of friendships from the past in my heart. I realise that this is life. I celebrate my new friendships. It is part of growing up. (Jackie)